All doors should not be opened.  Let me explain. Just because you CAN do something, does not mean that you SHOULD do it.  Getting involved in certain behaviors is like opening Pandora’s Box.  Here is an example that most people in society agree is negative: drugs.  But don’t you know that getting high actually feels good?  Drugs are the perfect example that just because something FEELS good, does not mean that it IS good.  We all know the road that drugs lead to…destruction.  The “high” causes people to do despicable things.

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Another example: sex.  Getting involved in certain sexual behaviors will take you into another world.  All sex is not good sex; and having sex with the wrong person may bind you to something that you DO NOT want.  This is definitely a door that should not be opened with just anybody. 


You should also be careful of what relationships you enter into.  Intimate relationships, family, friends, co-workers, neighbors, church members, etc.  When you enter into a relationship with someone, you give them an opening into your life.  Everyone does not have good intentions, and everyone is not good for you.  Letting the wrong person enter your life can take you completely off track.  That is why parents have to be watchful and careful about their children’s friends.  How many stories have you heard of someone who was a good kid, until that one “friend” came around, then they became withdrawn, depressed, and starting engaging in negative behaviors.  We have to be just as protective with our own selves and who we allow into our lives.

Not opening the door and getting involved in just anything is about having standards.  We often talk about having standards when it comes to dating and relationships, but we need standards in life overall.  Don’t just do ANYTHING, have STANDARDS, and LIMITS.  Just because someone asks you to do something, doesn’t mean that you have to do it.  You do not have to try everything.  Have boundaries that you won’t cross.  Those boundaries may save your life.





Don’t open that door chasing that feeling.  All good feelings are not good for your life.  Is someone trying to get you to try something that you know is not right – drugs, an immoral sexual act, illegal activity, bullying a classmate or co-worker, joining a club or group that is about hate or something else not right?  You have a choice and you do not have to do it.

If you have opened a door that should not have been opened and are involved in something destructive you can change it.  As long as you have breath in your body, it’s never too late to change.  I have done things that I should not have done, and I changed it.  Some of those things were years ago, and some were just last year!  I am a work in progress, and if I can do it, so can you.  Let’s grow together.  Remember, just because something FEELS good, doesn’t mean that it IS good for you. 

Love, Tonia

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